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What is a Fetish?

Whether you're into leather, spanking or feet, you've probably wondered exactly what a fetish is. A fetish is something that turns people on and stimulates their sexual desires. For some people it's as simple as wearing certain types of underwear; for others it can involve heavy bondage or role-playing. It's completely normal to have a fetish—we all do! But how do we know if it's just something we enjoy sexually or if it qualifies as an actual disorder?

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What is a fetish?

A fetish is a sexual obsession (well, mostly sexual) with an object or body part that isn't typically thought of as sexual, such as the feet or hair. Fetishes can be categorized as either "soft" fetishes or "hard" fetishes; soft ones are generally considered less extreme than hard ones.

What exactly constitutes a fetish? It's when you get turned on by something that isn't typical for most people to find arousing. A person may also have multiple fetishes, like having one for feet and another for hair.

Fetishes can be objects, body parts or even situations. They can be anything from shoes to feet to diapers. Some people are aroused by the idea of being humiliated or dominated, while others get off on wearing latex gloves while they masturbate. If you have a fetish of some kind, that doesn't make you bad or weird, it just means that your turn-ons aren't exactly mainstream!

Not all fetishes are sexual

Fetishism is a fixation on or attraction to objects or body parts. It can be sexual or non-sexual. There are two types: sexual and non-sexual. Sexual fetishism is a fixation on an object or body part that other people do not typically find attractive, such as feet. Non-sexual fetishism is an obsession with a non-sexual object or body part. This could include things like washing your hands over and over again or wearing the same item of clothing every day. So they’re more like simple obsessions than fetishes.

Fetishes can be categorized as either "soft" or "hard"

Soft fetishes like those for: feet, leather, latex and uniform fetishes are more common. Hard fetishes are generally considered more extreme by the public at large because they often involve pain or discomfort. They may also be associated with a high risk of injury. The most common hard fetishes include bondage-type activities, such as restraint. These are often synonymous with clothing like leather and rubber outfits. Cross-dressing or transvestism is also often considered a fetish, although this is not always sexual in nature.

Discovering a Fetish

If you've realized that your sexual desires don't fit into the standard definition, that's great! You now have a chance to explore and learn more about what turns you on. Just because something isn't considered "normal" or "mainstream,” it doesn't mean it's not normal for you. In fact, plenty of people are turned on by things that might seem unusual to others—and they're often surprised by how many other people share their interests. You can find lots of London escorts that will share your various kinks and fetishes!

Many people discover their fetish early in life, but others don't realize it's a fetish until much later. If you think your sexuality might be different from those around you, take some time to think about what makes the difference between erotic desire and sexual arousal; and how those feelings may differ from person to person. Understanding yourself and your own sexuality is important, but so is being open-minded about other people's experiences as well!

You can have a fetish and never act on it

While it's true that fetishes can be intense, overwhelming, and even destructive for some people, it's important to note that a fetish is not an automatic gateway to sexual behaviour. You can have a fetish and never act on it. Moreover, you might not realize that your behaviour is rooted in a fetish until much later in life; especially if you've always displayed your fetishist tendencies under the guise of normalcy.

You don’t have to act on it

Most of us aren't going to be able to just walk up to our friends and say, "Hey, I have this thing where I like putting on women's underwear." But if you have a fetish and want to explore it, you don't have to tell anyone else about it (unless you want or need someone else's help!). Sometimes it’s nice to talk to a professional about your desires, and by professional, we mean someone who appreciates it and shares it. For example, if you have a fetish for girls in uniforms, you might want to book an escort nurse, who can act out some roleplay with you.


Nothing to be ashamed of

People who are into fetishes are often seen as weird, gross, or even sick. It's easy to understand why that is. If you've never experienced a fetish yourself, the idea of someone being turned on by something like tights or feet seems strange at best and scary at worst. But for many people with fetishes, these things aren't just a turn-on; they're an important part of their sexual identity.


So, what can you do about it? First off: don't be ashamed! If you have a fetish and people judge you for it, realize that they may not know any better (even some doctors consider fetishism to be a mental illness). As long as your fetishes don't hurt anyone else or cause problems in your life outside of sex (like making it hard for you to hold down a job), there's nothing wrong with having them!

Fetishism is only one type of paraphilia

While fetishism is the most common type of paraphilia, there are many other types that involve an interest in non-human objects. For example:

  • Trichophilia -- Sexual attraction to hair. This can include a desire to run hands through someone's scalp or pull their hair, as well as being attracted to the concept of pulling someone's hair out or watching them have their head shaved against their will.
  • Fetishism -- Arousal from non-sexual items, such as shoes and underwear. It may also include arousal from body parts like feet or armpits; although those are usually considered part of another paraphilic category called "acrotomophilia," not just fetishes.
  • Frotteurism -- The act of rubbing one's body against strangers in public places without sexual intention (often because it gives the perpetrator a sense of power over others). This is different from frottage which refers specifically to rubbing up against another person for sexual pleasure rather than personal satisfaction by itself, although both can be considered forms of exhibitionism.
Assault and Fetish

It's important to make a distinction between assault and playing out your fetish with a partner who shares it with you. Assault is a crime, whereas BDSM play is not. If someone consents to being tied up, spanked, or whatever else could be considered a "fetish," then there's nothing wrong with that person also consenting to having sex while they're tied up or spanked. However, if someone has been forced into doing these things without their consent, then that would be considered assault—a form of abuse that should never be tolerated.

As long as both parties are on the same page about what they want when it comes time for kinky playtime (and all parties respect each other's boundaries), then everyone involved can enjoy themselves safely and happily!

Fetishes are normal for many people

A fetish is a part of sexual desire that's specific to one person or situation. It may be a specific object, action, or body part that another person finds arousing. Some people have fetishes that are hard (like being aroused by leather or latex) and some people have soft (like being aroused by feet). If you've ever been curious about what a fetish is, then this article should have given you a good idea of what it's all about. But just remember, whatever your kink may be, it's perfectly normal for people who share the same interests to get together and explore those interests with each other.


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